Alma Parton is a 26-year-old mama to Kayden, who she welcomed into the world at the young age of seventeen. Approaching her senior year of high school, Alma found out she was pregnant and visited Safe Harbor Women’s Medical Clinic to help make a decision regarding her unplanned pregnancy. Alma chose to parent Kayden, who she lovingly refers to by his nickname “Blazer”. Alma shares below what that journey has been like–the struggles and the successes. Today, ten years later, Alma is a successful and loving mama to a sweet 8-year-old boy! Hear more about her story in our Q&A session here:
*What were your emotions when finding out you were pregnant?
I remember like it was yesterday exactly where I was and who was with me when I found out I was pregnant. I’ll never forget it. I knew in my heart before I ever took the test I was pregnant but I was hoping it would be negative because I knew I was about to disappoint a lot of people . I knew I was going get a lot of negativity and be looked down on.
*What was your support group like during pregnancy?
My support group during pregnancy was amazing. It was family. I’m thankful that my experience turned out to be more than I could have ever hoped for. It was a positive experience.
*What was a surprising part of being pregnant of your pregnancy and motherhood journey?
The surprising part of being pregnant as a teenager for me was just how easy it was for me to drop everything I was doing in life then and the activities I had to quit doing. Playing sports was what I lived for then and the moment I found out I was pregnant, I knew I was about to have a whole new purpose in life.
*How did your goals change?
My goals changed the moment I found out I was pregnant. I remember making a promise to myself that very day standing in the bathroom looking at the 2 lines that my kid was gonna be so loved and never have to wonder or question why they weren’t good enough like I did when I was younger.
*What are your plans for you and your child in the future?
My plans for Blazer and I are what they have been from the beginning. It’s to live each day the best we can filled with lots of loved. Not every day is easy and a lot of them are hard but I know with him looking up to me I’m motivated to get whatever needs to be done accomplished. He is the driving force in everything I do . He knows I’m always gonna be in his corner to help and support him and that means the world to me.
*How did Safe Harbor affect your decision to keep your baby? How did they influence your experience in pregnancy?
Safe Harbor holds a special place in my heart because I knew when I went there the first day I was in fact pregnant and they were so so incredibly supportive and kind to me during such a scary and hard time in life when others looked down on me for being a teenage mom. I always knew at any point I could stop by if I ever needed any encouragement along my journey just as I still do today. This place isn’t just for pregnancy. It is still around every after and I mean years after. Mrs Jennifer truly cares about each and every person who comes in and wants everyone to have a success story. She is a comforting peace in a lot of people’s lives during a scary time. Most cities and towns need people like Mrs Jennifer to just give a comforting hug and prayer and kind words in the first moments finding out and I truly believe in my heart more moms leaning for abortion and wondering how they were gonna make it would see it’s absolutely possible.
If I could give any advice and encouragement to my fellow teenage moms it would be this….
I know when you see the positive test it’s like a kick in the stomach and your first thought is I’m not ready to be a mom or how in the world am I going to do this . What you don’t realize in that moment of emotions is just how much that child is gonna save your life and change your whole world for the better . The first time you hold your baby and look into those precious eyes and hear that cry all the worry and stress you had will instantly go away and you will know exactly what to do and will start living immediately for your tiny human who will grow to be your best pal over time.
Let me add that what some people said would ruin my life gave me a purpose in life. Almost close to 10 years later I couldn’t imagine how my life would have been without him because he saved me. If I’ve said it once I’ve said it a thousand times– that precious child saved me from so much heartache and gave me a reason to live. I couldn’t imagine not being a mother now. He is my favorite person. He is always looking out for me and tells me quite often how I’m the best mom and he wishes all kids had moms like me. I feel my heart melt every time I hear it. The love you have for your children is a love that you can’t describe and one that takes up your whole heart. Motherhood is such a special blessing. I wouldn’t trade it for the world. This teenage mom sees it as a blessing because I met my son early so I can love him longer. There is always a rainbow at the end of the storm and I think if more people would think about that during scary moments, it would give them something to look forward to at the end.❤️